Showing posts with label mental health. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mental health. Show all posts

Wednesday, August 7, 2019

How to have fun as an adult & the benefits

If you’re a parent, you’ll probably have said to your children, a million times things like “when I was a child…”, “we played outside until dark…”, “our parents never saw us…” etc etc. Am I right? What happened? As an adult or grown up, we’ve lost that ability to have fun or incorporate more play into our adult lives. Here’s a few ways how to have fun as an adult and the benefits for your health and your home.

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We’ve taken life too serious

I can remember as a teenager, I couldn’t wait until I grew up. Getting into bars, driving, doing my own grocery shop, living on my own. All those things that make us think what a grown up life looks like.

We neglect to think about or even know about the responsibilities of working for a living, new and broken relationships, money stress, moving house stress, marriage, kids of our own etc etc. Life has become way more serious than we would’ve ever expected as a teen.

When life gets real

Is it any wonder we’ve forgotten how to have fun. Sure, my early 20’s were fun, partying hard, looking for love and my career but there should’ve been more play to protect my mental health for what was to come.

There was the passing of my father in my late 20’s, depression, failed relationships etc in my early 30’s and then marriage, children and a divorce plus the passing of my mother in my 40’s. A lot for anyone to go through. I wonder if I’d incorporated a bit more fun into my life some of those life events might’ve been a bit easier to bare?

The benefits of play for adults for your health

Just like for children, play should be an important part of our lives. Here are some of the benefits.

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Relieves stress

Play can trigger the release of endorphins, the body’s natural feel-good chemicals. Endorphins promote an overall sense of well-being and can even temporarily relieve pain.

Improves brain function

Playing games, completing puzzles, or other fun activities that challenge the brain can help prevent memory problems and improve brain function. The social interaction of playing with family and friends can also help ward off stress and depression.

Stimulates the mind and boosts creativity

Children learn through play and this principle can apply to adults, as well. You’ll learn new tasks better when it’s fun and you’re in a relaxed and playful mood. Play can also stimulate your imagination, helping you adapt and solve problems.

It will help you with your energy levels and make you want to get stuck into those household chores and decluttering jobs with vigour especially if you’ve got the music blaring and you’re dancing while you’re doing it.

Improves relationships and interpersonal connections

Having fun with other adults can foster empathy, compassion, trust, and intimacy with others. Play doesn’t have to include a specific activity; it can also be a state of mind. Developing a playful nature can help you loosen up in stressful situations, break the ice with strangers, make new friends, and form new business relationships.

It helps with keeping calm if you’re driving, dealing with a difficult colleage or boss or going through tough times with your own family members.

Keep you feeling young and energetic

“We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.”

George Bernard Shaw

Play can boost your energy and vitality and even improve your resistance to disease, helping you function at your best.

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Since meeting my new husband back in 2014, we do nothing but. Life is fun. We goof around. He still skateboards and surfs in his 40’s. We love going to the beach, kicking water at each other. There’s no better way to cool down after a hard day at work on a hot summer’s day than a water fight, which we do regularly and we dance and joke around all the time.

My children, now teenagers, might look at us a bit strangely but hopefully they’ll take away the importance of having fun well into their adult years.

Ways to have fun as an adult

There are so many ways to have fun as an adult and you don’t have to look far than your own children to learn from them. Here’s a few other things to try.

  • play a team sport
  • join a games group at your local library or club
  • play your favourite sport in the backyard or at your local park
  • play hide and seek with your partner and children (we do this all the time)
  • say silly things in a silly voice
  • make up your own language of silly words (we do this and laugh about it all the time)
  • host a themed party like fancy dress or come as your favourite super hero
  • invest in a table tennis table or other table game
  • play board games or card games
  • colour in
  • do jigsaw puzzles or play with Lego (everyone’s doing it)
  • buy a $2 bubble blower and blow bubbles
  • dance
  • take dance classes
  • learn a musical instrument
  • start a band for fun
  • join a drama or theatre group
  • volunteer at the school and get dressed up on theme days (yes, I went dressed as Darth Vader when on duty at the school canteen one day and my young son was not impressed at all but I had fun)
  • play charades
  • play Twister
  • run a bubble bath and have a good soak
  • sing out loud to your favourite songs with your headphones in
  • take up a long forgotten or never tried craft
  • learn a new sport and take classes
  • get on the floor and play with your children, taking their lead (they have the best imaginations)
  • introduce fun at work by playing cards or going to the nearest park in your break to shoot a few hoops (talk to your employer about introducing other fun activities to do on your break)
  • get a pet and interact with them
  • try your kid’s video games (they’ll love it)
  • learn magic tricks
  • try out crazy Snapchat filters on your phone
  • download a Word game app or similar on your phone
  • take goofy selfies instead of trying to look 100% perfect
  • keep telling stories of your childhood to your children to keep the memories alive
  • have a tickle fight
  • tell each other jokes
  • have a comedy night
  • watch a crazy funny movie or stand up comedian DVD
  • watch those funniest home video type shows
  • watch funny videos on YouTube
  • have a crazy hair day
  • take a bike ride
  • go roller skating ice skating
  • try ten pin bowling
  • go trampolining
  • learn to ride a skateboard or try surfing

Whatever it is that gives you a good belly laugh until it hurts or brings a smile to your face, do it and do it regularly. You are never too old to have fun. Incorporate it regularly into your day and week. You’ll feel so much better for it.

How to have fun as an adult & the benefits

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Today is "mental health day"

My mental health day that is. What started out as a day full of motivation and wanting to get things done has slowly progressed to a complete stand still. I’ve got a ‘to do’ list a mile long and a week full of appointments that I’m losing track of where I need to be on which day. Even though everything is on my calendar, I’m feeling like I’ve forgotten something.

On my ‘to do’ list for today was:

  • wash
  • fold laundry
  • mend
  • vacuum and dust living room
  • wash bathroom and toilet floors
  • tidy main bedroom
  • bake cookies
  • finalise tax return for accountant
  • organise craft supplies for Father’s Day card and gift so kids can start making it

I’ve washed and that’s about it. It’s become grey, cool and overcast and I feel like curling up in bed with a good book so that’s what I’m going to do. Even though, trying to be the most organised person I can be, I love to do all that, I feel like I go into ‘overload’ mode and can’t cope with even the most simplest detail. Like a kettle filled too high and then overflows when it boils. That’s me.

On days when my kids are at school and Kindy, I don’t interact with anyone unless it’s a shopkeeper or someone I’ve http://blorner.com/ReniL/ caught up with for a coffee so learning to recognise the times I need a ‘mental health day’ has been good for me. I suffered from depression in my early 30’s and since having the kids, post natal depression. Sure, I still have my ‘blue’ days but I have the ability to pick myself up and concentrate on the positives.

I just wish, sometimes, that someone might say, “R U Ok?”. It doesn’t have to be patronising, it doesn’t haven’t to be interfering. Just three words that might make someone feel that there’s people out there who care enough about them and the world is an okay place to be in. Unfortunately, there are people who do take their own lives as a result of depression. Fortunately, I haven’t done that and don’t intend on doing that anytime soon.

“R U Ok? Day” is Thursday, 15 September 2011. Check out the R U OK website for more information on how you can help, when to know if it’s okay to ask “R U OK”, dealing with depression and bereavement and how to get involved.

Thanks to Gemma from over at My Big Nutshell for raising awareness of this issue. And yes. I am okay but thanks for asking!